Are you still choosing attachment over authenticity?
A theme which often comes up in therapy, especially for people with dissociative patterns, is that they have a sense that they don’t know who they are. In Gabor Maté’s work, he often discusses what I consider to be at the root of this. Two fundamental needs every infant / child has are 1. Attachment (the drive to be close to another person for the purpose of protection) and 2. Authenticity (connection to self, gut instincts). The younger the child, the greater the need for at